Wednesday, December 2, 2009

Show Yourself Already!

Not the greatest of pictures, but it's the only recent one I could find!

I've always felt bad about not sharing more about me on my blog. I've wanted to, but I felt to scared to do it because I have had a stalker for over 20 years. My husband's ex-girlfriend. Without getting into all the juvenille carrying on that went on back then till now, I'll just say that she latched on to me after the breakup and never let go. It got weird, scary and quite unnerving at times. I felt the need to cover up my tracks and remain as anonymous as possible on the internet so I kept my personal information and photo off any sites, including my blog.

Because I've kept a low profile and hid as much as possible, I find myself stalker free for the past few months (at least to my knowledge!). It has made me re-think things and feel a bit more safer. And since I know quite a bit more about all my blog friends than you all know about me, it's only fair that I share a bit more. Though I'm not comfortable enough yet to give details, I will say my first name is Mary Ann. At least you all won't have to address me as "Sweet" all the time, though I do like that a lot!

So, I hope this helps you all get a better picture of who you are talking to when you stop by to say hello!!


Beth said...

I'm so sorry you had to endure the fear of having a stalker for so long, but happy to know that you feel safe enough now to "come out." You look just as sweet and pretty as I had envisioned!

I do understand. I was married before to an abusive man and still sometimes feel as though I'm looking over my shoulder. Which is one of the reasons I don't reveal my last name or put up my current picture or say exactly where I live. And we've always had an unlisted number and probably always will.

sweetflutterbys3 said...

Thank you, Beth! I'm sorry to hear you had to deal with an abusive husband. I could not imagine all you went through, and I'm glad you are out of the situation. I completely get you not wanting to share too much about yourself. You have to protect yourself first. We all understand.

Greener Pastures--A City Girl Goes Country said...

Hi Mary Ann! You are very pretty!

I know what you mean about being careful. I'm always very paranoid because of my situation with the Evils when we lived at the Amityville Horror House. They continued to attack us for a little while after we moved--calling my husband's job, that kind of thing. After what they did to us, I will never feel safe again. But I notice the more I blog, the more I open up and relax. You know, you have to let go a little. You have to live.

So glad you meet you!

Greener Pastures--A City Girl Goes Country said...

I'm sorry and can I say that I pictured you fat. Well, all those yummy desserts!

sweetflutterbys3 said...

Hey Debi! Thanks! I am beginning to feel a bit more comfortable, esp. around all my blog friends. So I thought I'd put myself out there and see what happens.

Fat? Oh gosh, I've been there, after the birth of my kids. And eating all those sweets doesn't help now, either! But I work out a lot and try to keep myself under control.

I'd love to hear your story about the Evils sometime. I'm surprised how many people have this happen to them.

Greener Pastures--A City Girl Goes Country said...

I really want to blog about it. But like you, I'm a little afraid. It'll be long. It's an unbelievable story involving the killing of my dogs, assault with a hammer, vandalism, robbery, you name it. We had to move. Three years later, we're still recovering. Someday I'll write it all.

sweetflutterbys3 said...

Oh my gosh. That is horrible. You'd have to have PTSD after experiencing something like that.

If you want to write about it, maybe you could do it as a separate blog. Or do a multi post about your experiences on your regular blog, whenever you feel ready of course. I did that with my stalking experience and though I chose not to share it with anyone, it really helped me to write it out.

I'm glad you got out of that situation. Nobody deserves to have to live like that, especially someone as nice as you!

Greener Pastures--A City Girl Goes Country said...

Aw, that's real nice of you to say. Yeah, one of these days I'll get to it.